As I write this, Italian millionaire Gianluca Vacchi is 52 years old and expecting his first child with a beautiful 25 year old Venezuelan woman 27 years his younger.

Prior to this Gianluca was in a similar scenario with another woman young enough to be his daughters younger friend.

For the past 6 years I have promoted older men dating younger women for multiple reasons that for some reason are always overlooked by the general public in favour of labels such as “sugar daddy” or “gold digger”.

But why is a large age gap such a problem? I in fact believe it’s more beneficial to male and female relationships than a couple the same age. The benefits for a man not only in a relationship sense, but in a life sense are enormously one-sided.

 

men and women age gap

 

Older Men & Younger Women

 

Male & Female Timelines

First and perhaps most importantly, men and women do not move forward in life at the same rate.

Women have a rocketship rise to high social value enjoying options, attention and career success. At around 30/35 a woman’s value begins to drop dramatically as she’s replaced on the social hierarchy by younger women now enjoying her former glory.

Men on the otherhand are forced to struggle for the opening 10 years of their adult life before they see anything close to the social value women experience 10 years prior. This begs the question should a man and a woman match their peaks in order to get the best value from one another?

If a man dates a woman out of his league when he’s 20, chances are those tables will turn as the couple reaches their early to mid 30’s and beyond.

As a man, it’s hard not to settle down with a woman who’s out of your league when you’re young, she’s beautiful and all in all, you feel lucky to have her. However I would argue it’s even harder to stay loyal/interested in this same woman, when as a man you’re now experiencing your peak and she’s 10 years or more beyond hers. The gap is only going to widen if the man has any level of ambition and is health focused.

As does happen very often, ambitious married men or even men in a long term relationship, tend to seek a divorce/split from their once dream partner and go in search of a woman also enjoying her peak at the same time he is.

This is why we see so many successful middle aged men 30-50 with beautiful women in their early 20’s, their value is quite evenly matched.

 

The Male Advantage

The average man will reach 27 and self-destruct until they’re 33 leaving them with bills, ties and a lack of time and money to move into the future with. This is what the statistic say.

What they don’t realise is that the male advantage was right around the corner. Men don’t enter their peak until they’re 35/36. At this age a man holds all of the cards and can date women within a 20 year radius (18 – 38) with ease.

A man as we discussed has to grind in order to raise their value. By 35/36 they achieve this if they’ve worked hard on themselves and they reap the rewards.

Women now see this man as the prize and someone they should compete for. Most men attempt to chase women during their teens and 20’s and they fail. Therefore they come to the conclusion that they’d be better off settling down with an average woman as surely they won’t have better luck in their 30’s and older?

In reality this is normal. The tables start to show signs of turning around 28, the age I am now as I write this. By 35/36 a man completely takes over in terms of social value and begins to see the women he once chased start to chase him.

 

Benefits of Being an Older Father

The final and perhaps most important point is based around becoming a Father.

Truth is, very few men actually want to take on daddy duties in their 20’s or early 30’s. However society, family and their partner apply so much pressure that it becomes impossible for them to say no. Most men are married with kids at 33 and not from personal choice.

The average man financially speaking isn’t in any position to have children until they’re 40. Why 40? Well could you survive a divorce/child payments/mortgage payments as well as your own bills if everything went wrong?

A man who’s 40 and a woman who’s 25 are perfectly aligned. They both want kids, are looking to settle down and perhaps build a home together. I don’t recommend marriage but it’s easier at this stage.

A 25 year old man and a 25 year old women are just living a lie, it’s obvious the man wants so much more than a quiet family man life.

By becoming an older father you have the following benefits;

  • Wiser
  • Financially better off
  • More free time
  • Calmer
  • Less likely to cheat
  • Higher level of intelligence
  • More empathetic

A 20 or 30 year old father will do a good job sure, but a 40 year old father will guarentee that child has the best possible mentor.

For anyone worrying about being young enough to play with your kids, 40 is so young. Never forget 40 is just 11 years more than 29, less if you do it by the closest months. There’s no excuse to be a fat lazy 40 year old man.

A 40 year old man should have energy the best body of his life and all of the qualities above making him the perfect father. The bonus to this is; you’ve had 22 years to live your own life and accomplish what you wanted to do first. Seeing a father with resentment is ugly.

 

Author Bio

Kris Sturmey

Kris Sturmey

Founder

Kris is a men’s expert with 7 years of experience within the men’s lifestyle game and is also the founder of 1STMAN based in London, UK.

Prior to starting Msicollege and 1STMAN Kris was a personal trainer, body language expert and men’s coach.

Kris has been using his very own logo free advice for years.

Learn more about Kris in our about section and founder profile.

As I write this, Italian millionaire Gianluca Vacchi is 52 years old and expecting his first child with a beautiful 25 year old Venezuelan woman 27 years his younger.

Prior to this Gianluca was in a similar scenario with another woman young enough to be his daughters younger friend.

For the past 6 years I have promoted older men dating younger women for multiple reasons that for some reason are always overlooked by the general public in favour of labels such as “sugar daddy” or “gold digger”.

But why is a large age gap such a problem? I in fact believe it’s more beneficial to male and female relationships than a couple the same age. The benefits for a man not only in a relationship sense, but in a life sense are enormously one-sided.

 

men and women age gap

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Older Men & Younger Women

 

Male & Female Timelines

First and perhaps most importantly, men and women do not move forward in life at the same rate.

Women have a rocketship rise to high social value enjoying options, attention and career success. At around 30/35 a woman’s value begins to drop dramatically as she’s replaced on the social hierarchy by younger women now enjoying her former glory.

Men on the otherhand are forced to struggle for the opening 10 years of their adult life before they see anything close to the social value women experience 10 years prior. This begs the question should a man and a woman match their peaks in order to get the best value from one another?

If a man dates a woman out of his league when he’s 20, chances are those tables will turn as the couple reaches their early to mid 30’s and beyond.

As a man, it’s hard not to settle down with a woman who’s out of your league when you’re young, she’s beautiful and all in all, you feel lucky to have her. However I would argue it’s even harder to stay loyal/interested in this same woman, when as a man you’re now experiencing your peak and she’s 10 years or more beyond hers. The gap is only going to widen if the man has any level of ambition and is health focused.

As does happen very often, ambitious married men or even men in a long term relationship, tend to seek a divorce/split from their once dream partner and go in search of a woman also enjoying her peak at the same time he is.

This is why we see so many successful middle aged men 30-50 with beautiful women in their early 20’s, their value is quite evenly matched.

 

The Male Advantage

The average man will reach 27 and self-destruct until they’re 33 leaving them with bills, ties and a lack of time and money to move into the future with. This is what the statistic say.

What they don’t realise is that the male advantage was right around the corner. Men don’t enter their peak until they’re 35/36. At this age a man holds all of the cards and can date women within a 20 year radius (18 – 38) with ease.

A man as we discussed has to grind in order to raise their value. By 35/36 they achieve this if they’ve worked hard on themselves and they reap the rewards.

Women now see this man as the prize and someone they should compete for. Most men attempt to chase women during their teens and 20’s and they fail. Therefore they come to the conclusion that they’d be better off settling down with an average woman as surely they won’t have better luck in their 30’s and older?

In reality this is normal. The tables start to show signs of turning around 28, the age I am now as I write this. By 35/36 a man completely takes over in terms of social value and begins to see the women he once chased start to chase him.

 

Benefits of Being an Older Father

The final and perhaps most important point is based around becoming a Father.

Truth is, very few men actually want to take on daddy duties in their 20’s or early 30’s. However society, family and their partner apply so much pressure that it becomes impossible for them to say no. Most men are married with kids at 33 and not from personal choice.

The average man financially speaking isn’t in any position to have children until they’re 40. Why 40? Well could you survive a divorce/child payments/mortgage payments as well as your own bills if everything went wrong?

A man who’s 40 and a woman who’s 25 are perfectly aligned. They both want kids, are looking to settle down and perhaps build a home together. I don’t recommend marriage but it’s easier at this stage.

A 25 year old man and a 25 year old women are just living a lie, it’s obvious the man wants so much more than a quiet family man life.

By becoming an older father you have the following benefits;

  • Wiser
  • Financially better off
  • More free time
  • Calmer
  • Less likely to cheat
  • Higher level of intelligence
  • More empathetic

A 20 or 30 year old father will do a good job sure, but a 40 year old father will guarentee that child has the best possible mentor.

For anyone worrying about being young enough to play with your kids, 40 is so young. Never forget 40 is just 11 years more than 29, less if you do it by the closest months. There’s no excuse to be a fat lazy 40 year old man.

A 40 year old man should have energy the best body of his life and all of the qualities above making him the perfect father. The bonus to this is; you’ve had 22 years to live your own life and accomplish what you wanted to do first. Seeing a father with resentment is ugly.

 

Author Bio

Kris Sturmey

Kris Sturmey

Founder

Kris is a men’s expert with 7 years of experience within the men’s lifestyle game and is also the founder of 1STMAN based in London, UK.

Prior to starting Msicollege and 1STMAN Kris was a personal trainer, body language expert and men’s coach.

Kris has been using his very own logo free advice for years.

Learn more about Kris in our about section and founder profile.