We’ve all been there.

You see your perfect women walking by and instead of talking to her you get nervous and walk right by pretending not to be interested.

Then a few hours later that girl is back in your mind, only this time you’ve sealed the deal, great work!

Not really. You see, sleeping with a woman in your mind that you didn’t have the balls to approach in real life is a little sad right?

The same goes for long term interests. We’ve all had that one woman we like but never approach/ask out. Instead she remains in your mind and you never take actions.

This form of masturbation is cheating. You’re telling your brain that you’ve slept with her already. Secondly you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough to get her naturally. Neither are a good strategy, it leads to a range of bad social habits and future confidence issues.

 

nofap benefits

 

Masturbation is a Form of Giving Up

 

You have to understand what this type of behaviour is teaching your brain to do.

Each time you give up and pick to masturbate you’re teaching your brain that there’s an easy way out.

Without masturbation as many of the NOFAP guys will know, you have no other option in order to attract women, you simply have to either try or get better.

Take 2 guys as an example; Both guys live in the same area and have both seen the straight 10 that walks by everyday. Both guys have dreamed about sleeping with this woman, but neither guy are on her level.

Guy 1 accepts this and is too shy to start a conversation. He goes home every night and masturbates to the thought of her living out a sad little fantasy life in his mind.

Guy 2 has anxiety and doesn’t feel confident enough to talk to her. He goes home every night and lifts heavy weights for 1 hour, reads self-improvement books, spends weekends working hard on his business/side hussle and practices NoFap.

Over time, guy 1 doesn’t get any better. He’s always low on energy and finds the easy way out as a more comfortable strategy.

Guy 2 has been working so hard, now 2 years later he’s in the shape of his life, he’s been approaching and dating other women for the past year, he’s got far more money, better assets and simply feels more confident within himself due to these changes. Because his life has been so busy he’s forgotten all about the woman who inspired these changes. He comes across her in the present day and immediately walks over to start a conversation. Turns out she had a boyfriend the entire time. Guy 2 doesn’t care and moves on with his life because of who he’s become.

Guy 1 however is still thinking about her, completely unaware she has a boyfriend continuing to dream everyday simply wasting time.

 

It’s so important to put yourself in the position of guy 2. Don’t chase what you want, work on yourself until what you want chases you!

 

 

Author Bio

Kris Sturmey

Kris Sturmey

Founder

Kris is a men’s expert with 7 years of experience within the men’s lifestyle game and is also the founder of 1STMAN based in London, UK.

Prior to starting Msicollege and 1STMAN Kris was a personal trainer, body language expert and men’s coach.

Kris has been a football fan for 25 years, following various teams from leagues all around the world.

Learn more about Kris in our about section and founder profile.

 

We’ve all been there.

You see your perfect women walking by and instead of talking to her you get nervous and walk right by pretending not to be interested.

Then a few hours later that girl is back in your mind, only this time you’ve sealed the deal, great work!

Not really. You see, sleeping with a woman in your mind that you didn’t have the balls to approach in real life is a little sad right?

The same goes for long term interests. We’ve all had that one woman we like but never approach/ask out. Instead she remains in your mind and you never take actions.

This form of masturbation is cheating. You’re telling your brain that you’ve slept with her already. Secondly you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough to get her naturally. Neither are a good strategy, it leads to a range of bad social habits and future confidence issues.

 

nofap benefits

 

Masturbation is a Form of Giving Up

 

You have to understand what this type of behaviour is teaching your brain to do.

Each time you give up and pick to masturbate you’re teaching your brain that there’s an easy way out.

Without masturbation as many of the NOFAP guys will know, you have no other option in order to attract women, you simply have to either try or get better.

Take 2 guys as an example; Both guys live in the same area and have both seen the straight 10 that walks by everyday. Both guys have dreamed about sleeping with this woman, but neither guy are on her level.

Guy 1 accepts this and is too shy to start a conversation. He goes home every night and masturbates to the thought of her living out a sad little fantasy life in his mind.

Guy 2 has anxiety and doesn’t feel confident enough to talk to her. He goes home every night and lifts heavy weights for 1 hour, reads self-improvement books, spends weekends working hard on his business/side hussle and practices NoFap.

Over time, guy 1 doesn’t get any better. He’s always low on energy and finds the easy way out as a more comfortable strategy.

Guy 2 has been working so hard, now 2 years later he’s in the shape of his life, he’s been approaching and dating other women for the past year, he’s got far more money, better assets and simply feels more confident within himself due to these changes. Because his life has been so busy he’s forgotten all about the woman who inspired these changes. He comes across her in the present day and immediately walks over to start a conversation. Turns out she had a boyfriend the entire time. Guy 2 doesn’t care and moves on with his life because of who he’s become.

Guy 1 however is still thinking about her, completely unaware she has a boyfriend continuing to dream everyday simply wasting time.

 

It’s so important to put yourself in the position of guy 2. Don’t chase what you want, work on yourself until what you want chases you!

 

 

Author Bio

Kris Sturmey

Kris Sturmey

Founder

Kris is a men’s expert with 6 years of experience within the men’s lifestyle game and is also the founder of 1STMAN based in London, UK.

Prior to starting Msicollege and 1STMAN Kris was a personal trainer, body language expert and men’s coach.

Kris has been a football fan for 25 years, following various teams from leagues all around the world.

Learn more about Kris in our about section and founder profile.